Guilt is a normal human emotion and in small measures, does not affect you too much. However, when it breaches into an overwhelming amount, it starts becoming destructive to your psyche, health, and wellbeing. If you are focused on beating yourself up over what you failed to achieve, you are detracting yourself from the most important step to success – moving on, and never stop your efforts. In the end, as a famous saying explicitly states it, how hard you hit is not as important as how hard you are hit and yet keep moving on!
Therefore, it is important to know what to not feel guilty for. You cannot let every small thing get to your head and bring you down!
Here is a comprehensive list of all things you should take it easy after.
1. Failure is a stepping-stone to success.
Every master has failed more than any novice at getting where he is – and to get to his place, it is important you keep this in mind. It might be that you worked excruciatingly hard, it might have been factors outside of your control – whatever happened, and you could not have prevented it. It is important to be kind to yourself and not be too harsh, in this tough time. Stand by yourself!
2. Not Measuring Up To Your Peers.
Not everyone has had the same life, resources and time. It is very natural that some of your peers perform better than or not so good as you. However, taking these personally and being sad over other’s successes are a surefire way of getting yourself down. Avoid that trap – do not fall into it! Every time you are tempted to be sullen over somebody else getting that promotion, count your blessings and be thankful for every one of them.
3. People’s Opinions Of You.
People and their opinions have very little to do with what you actually are and want to do. Therefore, paying much attention to those opinions is a surefire way to bring grief, negativity, and guilt into your life. You must focus on what you truly want, who you are, and what are the things that make you happy.
4. The Past.
The past is in the past, always – and that is exactly where it is supposed to remain. Obsessing over what you cannot change anymore will only work to hamper your chances where you might gain something fruitful. Therefore, it is imperative you let it go. The Universe never stops for anyone, and everyone fits into it well. Keep in mind that everything will work out, you just need to have faith and give your very best.
Downtime is as much required by the human body as is fuel required by a machine. Denying yourself that is actually directly responsible for decreasing your productivity, and not the other way round – whatever the magazines will have you believe. Great personalities swear by the time that is taken off from work. Therefore, when you realize your body needs it too and create time for yourself. Do not let your mind be at work.
6. Bad Decisions.
Bad decisions are necessary in everyone’s life – they teach you how to make the good ones. Therefore, you can stop regretting the stupid one you made when you were eighteen – it probably made you into the person you are today. If you want to ensure, however, that you are on the right track in the future in the matter of finances at the very least, you should purchase a good insurance policy. Every person, at every point of life, needs to handle the unexpected financial emergencies.
Mistakes are a necessary part of life no one should be looking to bypass. So if you have your fair share of them, understand you have lived, not erred. You also gave your best at all the times, so you should feel happy with yourself, not guilty instead.