No matter how career driven you are, you’ve got a picture built up of Mr Right in your mind and you’ve been adding to it since your first crush. While there’s no such thing as the perfect match, there’s certainly the perfect match for you, which means your match is someone you connect with, but may not necessarily embody all the traits you daydreamed about.
Here are the traits that all women want in their life partner:
1. Compassionate personality
Compassion is one of the most essential qualities in a life partner. It basically means that your partner is able to sympathize with the emotions of others. If you are married to someone who just doesn’t understand your feelings and thoughts, let alone sympathize with them, then you’re in for a tough ride. All we want in any relationship is to be understood and appreciated for who we are. If that need is not fulfilled, it leads to a lot of dissatisfaction and fights. Therefore, when you’re on the lookout for a life partner, make sure he’s compassionate.
Nothing beats a shared conversation between equals. Being able to discuss your views and opinions about the world with someone who is able to understand them on an intellectual level, and agree or refute smartly is what makes any conversation scintillating. Whether you are simply discussing something as pedestrian as home décor or want to talk about human rights and exploitation, it is essential for both parties to be at the same (or similar) levels of intelligence. Trying to explain something to someone who just cannot understand can be infuriating. Furthermore, it can be hard to respect your partner if you don’t respect his mind.
3. Astute Planning
Everyone loves a man with a plan! While we are certainly not saying that it’s the man’s job to handle financial decisions while the women smile meekly and swipe their debit cards for shoes, it is still vital for your partner to have the ability to think ahead or plan ahead. The two of you can then take joint decisions regarding your finances as equals. If your partner is impulsive, then you may find that the funds you were saving for a rainy day have now disappeared and there’s a shiny new car in your garage! A partner that has the ability to make astute financial decisions and investments is therefore, preferred over one who cannot.
4. Ability to prioritize
It is important for people to be able to prioritize. If your priorities align with your partner’s, you can expect a smoother relationship as the two of you will be working towards similar goals. For instance, if one of your top concerns is being able to buy a house by the time you hit a certain age, and your partner wants to go backpacking for a year instead, there’s a high chance that you may be able to achieve only one of the two. While there’s nothing wrong with either of these dreams, it is important to be able to discuss them with your partner and make sure your priorities are similar.
5. Aligned Expectations
As individuals, we all have different expectations from our relationships. You may want children while your partner may hate children. While having kids may be a decision far into the future, when the time does arrive, it may cause friction between the two of you. Therefore, it is essential to look for a partner with similar expectations so that you can avoid problems later on.
All of these things are things that must be discussed before you embark on your journey together. It is essential to keep in mind that priorities and expectations shift as we grow older so always keep some breathing room in whatever plans you wish you lay down.