Prepping for the event where you eventually pop the question to your would-be bride is a daunting task. As the big day draws near, anxiety and stress multiply manifold. The pressure to deliver the perfect line, create the perfect setting and hope for everything to go according to plan can be enormous.
Another subject that concerns most men, is the uncertainty of fate. Is she is the right person? Are you meant to be together? If you are wondering if you have asked the right questions that need to be answered, then go through the questions listed below to rest your uncertainty, once in for all.
Are you compatible?
Opposites attract. True but you need to have similar ideologies and principles to understand each other and live together in a marital relationship. You could have contrasting personalities, but your world view, the level of investment in the relationship need to align. You don’t want to wake up one morning and realise that you have married a stranger. Talk it through; be open and honest about your expectations. You need to be sure that you can see a future with your partner.
Is She Ready for A family?
With the hectic and fast-paced speed of modern day life, one’s ambitions for personal lives have shifted. Do you want children in the future? Does she? Are your hopes and dreams for them similar? Are the two of you on the same page when it comes to their upbringing and education? You need to figure out where you stand on this important point. You need to have a candid conversation with your partner about this.
How Cordial is The Relationship between Your Families?
A marriage is more than just a union of two individuals. It is a union of families. It is a union of people who may have led diametrically opposite lives joining themselves in the life-changing bond of family. More than their approval, you want your families to get along. To be happy and optimistic about your future. You both need to fit in with the rest of the families of the opposite person.
How Stable are You, Financially?
Can you afford to get married? Weddings are expensive, married life more so. Are you economically stable enough to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of another person’s health and well-being? “In sickness and in health” are not shallow words. They are a solemn promise to see each other through the various struggle s of life. Make sure that you have enough savings for any unexpected curves that surprise you. And heavens forbid, if something tragic were to happen, an insurance policy will ensure the woman you love stays secure and happy even after you.
When? Where? How?
The tale of how you proposed to your lady love is going to be told and retold throughout your lives. Whether it is with a dinner date at a nice restaurant, a live music performance at a chic club or a quiet evening with your friends and family, all you need to make sure of is that it is personal to the two of you. Choose a place that is a favourite with the two of you. Could be a park or the rooftop of a hotel or anywhere you have made pleasant memories. Let her know how important she is to you, how you treasure her in your life. It is perfectly normal to be nervous as hell when proposing. After all, her answer is going to change your life. Pick the perfect ring. You surely know her taste in jewellery by now. Size doesn’t matter, well… it doesn’t matter all that much. What matters is that the ring encompasses the essence of who she is as a person. Get down on your knee and say those life-altering words. “Will you marry me?”
Marriage is a big commitment. One that requires significant patience, trust and respect. But love and happiness are things well worth the investment.